The looking Glass Self: A Trauma Perspective
Although I had some traditional medical model training in my earlier years in which I was taught to use the DSM as a bible of sorts, I...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Jun 28, 2022
- 2 min
Therapy Moment in Action: Do You Feel Like Yourself?
I have found in my front-line clinical work that one simple, concise and effectively timed question can open up a space where critical...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Jun 9, 2021
- 2 min
Flip Sides of the Same Coin: Counter- Transference and Neuro-Ception
So often we read about how therapy aims to teach us self soothing or self-regulation skills. These days with third wave therapies being...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- May 8, 2021
- 2 min
Coercive Control: A Roller Coaster of Flight and Freeze
Over the last couple decades I have been working with women struggling to navigate intimate partner violence. Recently I have noticed on...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Feb 8, 2021
- 2 min
What it Means to be Different: Being "Othered"
We identify as the same or as the other. This process in identity formation is evolving and dynamic with our sense of self being...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Feb 5, 2021
- 2 min
Navigating the Line of Trauma Work
The ultimate goal in life is to cope and be able to wake up in the morning and be as productive as possible. This can be extended into...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Jan 1, 2021
- 4 min
Coercive Control as a Social Phenomenon
Over the last few months I have noticed a disturbing narrative that argues strongly against having specific resources available for women...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Dec 29, 2020
- 2 min
A Built In Platform to Identify Emotions in Childhood Impacts Selfhood
One's inner world is experienced on many levels- it may be experienced through our physical senses, such as heightened heart rates,...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Nov 16, 2020
- 1 min
An Effective Mantra: Notice and Observe - Without Attaching
Mindfulness meditation tends to practice these notions of noticing ones wandering thoughts or feelings, without necessarily internalizing...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Sep 25, 2020
- 2 min
What Comes First? Our emotions or our language to identify emotion
I was reading an article earlier today called "The Untranslatable Emotions" which had me thinking deeply about the power of language in...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Sep 22, 2020
- 1 min
Knowing Thyself: Do we listen to our body, our mind or our heart?
This century has embraced the mind-body connection which in turn have shown the enormous benefits of somatic type therapies. The latter...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Sep 20, 2020
- 2 min
The Lived Reality is Living with Unfinished Business, Loose Ends and Contradictions
Where does this notion of tying up loose ends before we can move forward in our lives come from? Is this in fact even realistic? Life is...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Sep 14, 2020
- 5 min
Resilience and Growth through Trauma
What is resilience and how does it relate to trauma? Resilience involves facing a significant threat that has the potential to produce...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Sep 13, 2020
- 2 min
Meaning-Making: A Trauma Informed Approach
Over the last few years the health and wellness world has been addressing the narrative of trauma and it's impacts. We have heard the...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Aug 30, 2020
- 2 min
A Brief unpacking of Strength Based Therapy
How often does one see "strength based therapy" on a psychotherapist website, or when reading psychotherapy biographies; it almost always...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Aug 14, 2020
- 2 min
Losing a Loved One: A Continued Bond
I recall many years ago seeing clients that were navigating the death of their loved ones, and at the time a referring psychiatrist...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Aug 14, 2020
- 2 min
To Be Seen and to Be Heard is to Feel Valued
Over the years I have partnered with clients navigating relationship challenges in their intimate partnerships, with their friendships...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Aug 12, 2020
- 2 min
Are we truly "the all good child" or alternatively "the all bad child"?
To have a same you need an other. To have a black, you need a white. To be an outsider, you need an insider. Hegel proposed this notion...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Aug 12, 2020
- 2 min
"Sick" Labels: How We Buy Into Them
Yesterday a twenty year old women described her situation at our first therapy session- "I was a behavioral child", "a troubled teen" and...
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Lauren Kalvari (MSW.,RSW)
- Aug 7, 2020
- 2 min
When Home is a "War Zone": Intimate Partner Violence
Over the years I have women coming in for support with statements like "I don't know why I am so anxious all the time!" or "I cannot...
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